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Originally Posted by PokerEnthusiast  I can't - not yet at least. But I would like to.... if it is even possible.
When I'm having a conversation with someone (it doesn't matter who it is) I can never seem to think of what to say before it's too late. When someone says something to me or asks me about something I feel pressured because they are waiting for me to reply but I haven't had the time to think of how to respond. In situations like these I usually just end up responding with short/one-word answers. I hate this because it makes me feel like I'm stupid and some people won't feel like talking to me anymore. They think that I'm either stuck up and don't feel like talking to them, or that I'm just not an interesting person to talk to.
With writing it is different. If you don't like what you said you can go back and edit it. You don't have somebody standing in front of you or on the other end of the phone waiting for you to respond. You have all the time in the world to express yourself to people in the best possible way. btw, its taken me 20 minutes to write this so far - and I'm a fast typer  . But at least I know that everything that I wanted to say is here and I said it the way I wanted to say it. Now, if was were talking to you about this instead of writing it I wouldn't have been able to say half the things I said here and the stuff I managed to say most likely wouldn't have came out with the same clarity as in my writing.
To the people that reply to this thread: After you write your post; read it and then tell me if you could have given me the same answer with the same degree of clarity had I asked you about this in a real conversation.
If your answer is yes.... I would really like your help. How do you do it? How do you immediately think of what to say and put it into clear and concise words?  |
I definitely do not.
When I write, my words carry the most unnatural tone for speech. My attempts at communication by speaking are indirect, ineffective, and clumsy at best.
I don't really mind it though. I like sounding like an idiot.