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The other day I had a conversation with my friend about problems in general. In short, we discussed if we, as human beings, all have the same amount of problems, how we react to the problems we face, and the possibility of simply being happy to help us not dwell on the problems, thus decreasing our amount of problems overall. Tell me what you think:

Steaklover: Do you think some people have less problems than others? Or are people balanced out? So everyone has the same amount of problems but some are more problematic than others?

Daisy101: I think we all have the same amount of problems but we choose to be affected by them differently. For example, the magnitude by which each problem influences to a person varies with each individual. Some people swirl their whole life around one problem that is seemingly blown out of proportion in the public’s point of view. But in their mind that problem is their world, or should I say, nightmare.

Steaklover: I don’t get it. I think some people are just better at life. Some people score higher, appearing to have fewer problems.

Daisy101: Some people score higher, thus hiding their current problems, appearing to have a better grip on life. But they are essentially hiding their problems, thus never dealing with them.

Steaklover: So you don’t agree? You think people just ignore their weaknesses? Don’t you think some people enjoy life more?

Daisy101: I think it’s a little of both, such as looking on the positive, ignoring the weaknesses, and thus enjoying life a bit more.

Steaklover: So if you are able to look past your problems you therefore have less problems. Some people cannot do that.

Daisy101: Great point. You can DECREASE your amount of problems by choosing to look past them. However, you cannot erase them. You decrease them by choosing to move on and, should I say, "delete" the extra baggage from your mind.

Steaklover: But I don’t think this works in real life. You cannot just ignore and be happy. Moving on would fix your problems, but ignoring is not fixing. [pause] So basically, what you said is everyone has the same amount of problems but they all react differently.

Daisy101: Yeah I believe we all have the same amount of problems because seriously, who has ever lived the “perfect” life? And besides, those “perfect” lives end up being far less perfect than they let on to be. They often hide under their masks of money and fame, projecting a “perfect” image to the general population. And yet, they are dying inside. [This is a stereotypical example]

Steaklover: How do you know this? Rich people seem pretty happy to me. Take Steve Carrel [of the 40 Year Old Virgin]. He’s got a family, kids, and he’s super rich.

Daisy101: But how do we know if he's really happy? Having a family and kids and being rich is the epitome of American success. Patrick Dempsey once said something like "fame is a high—a dangerous kind of high. But at the end of the day it leaves you very empty and alone."

Steaklover: Yeah I’m saying that there are some who are famous, rich, and not empty.

Daisy101: Yeah it really just depends on the person, aside from the money and fame. You just have to look at who they really are.

Steaklover: Yes, can’t argue with that. So the blame is still on yourself.