Originally Posted by Angela
The "we're just trying to save you from a world of hurt, man" responses are based on a fear approach to romantic love. And if you're living and expressing yourself fully and authentically, and generating a space of freedom for yourself and for the people you encounter, there really is nothing to fear. You be your best self, you express yourself fully, and you accept people exactly as they are and exactly as they are not. In that model, there is no such thing as "rejection" or romantic agony -- you simply accept that a particular person doesn't wish to be your romantic partner at this time. Nuthin' wrong with that unless you make it wrong.
Romantic rejection is non-existant in a non fear based approach? OK. And the antidote is expressing oneself fully and authentically? It could be that the fear exists because of attachments that naturally occur with falling in love. It could be better to say that it's not a "fear based approach to romantic love" but a "paralizing response to the fear that shows up when courting". It's risky bussiness to invest some feelings and maybe have to move on. There's always a bit of attachment and a rejection against attachement causes withdrawl like symptoms. The deal is to not get paralized by that - to not get into thinking you will have a hard time being turned down - be optimistic.
Being free, connected, and joyful, and expressing himself to the point of what some of you would consider folly, is what made me meld my heart with Danger Man's. He stood out among men like a shining beacon of light.
Cool. I see it as courageous.