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Originally Posted by Angela  The "we're just trying to save you from a world of hurt, man" responses are based on a fear approach to romantic love. |
And experience. Everyone has fear when it comes to romantic love, men and women. What is that supposed to mean? It wouldn't be exciting if there weren't an element of danger and fear there. It's about making the right choices, WHILE you are feeling that fear. And he's afraid of what's going to happen with this letter. Maybe you've been "friend-zoned" Angela, I know it happens between both sexes--just happens more with men. It's not fun. And it's not necessay either. Unless you know what it's like to be a man Angela?
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Originally Posted by Angela And if you're living and expressing yourself fully and authentically, and generating a space of freedom for yourself and for the people you encounter |
<---then you wouldn't post a love letter asking for people's advice. You would just do it. He's scared. It's natural.
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Originally Posted by Angela You be your best self, you express yourself fully, and you accept people exactly as they are and exactly as they are not. In that model, there is no such thing as "rejection" or romantic agony -- you simply accept that a particular person doesn't wish to be your romantic partner at this time. Nuthin' wrong with that unless you make it wrong. |
Absolutely fantastic and healthy outlook, can't disagree at all. It's also an ideal that takes lots and lots of heartache and rejection to reach. You have to be at the place where rejection doesn't hurt--and I think that only comes from being rejected and knowing you're going to make it out alive.
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Originally Posted by Angela It sounds to me like the OP is doing his utmost to create a space of freedom for this woman. His desire to let her know how good he feels about her == how FREE he desires to be in feeling and living a life he loves |
Is asking for heartache.