I'm in complete agreement with Rose's edit suggestions -- they're right on.
The "we're just trying to save you from a world of hurt, man" responses are based on a fear approach to romantic love. And if you're living and expressing yourself fully and authentically, and generating a space of freedom for yourself and for the people you encounter, there really is nothing to fear. You be your best self, you express yourself fully, and you accept people exactly as they are and exactly as they are not. In that model, there is no such thing as "rejection" or romantic agony -- you simply accept that a particular person doesn't wish to be your romantic partner at this time. Nuthin' wrong with that unless you make it wrong.
It sounds to me like the OP is doing his utmost to create a space of freedom for this woman. His desire to let her know how good he feels about her == how FREE he desires to be in feeling and living a life he loves == this is something that really appeals to me and to many of the women who have responded here who want to generate the same thing in our own lives. I think we women in the "maybe 15 years older" category can really appreciate the beauty and rarity of a man who is free, because we encounter so many of the fear-based-approach men.
Being free, connected, and joyful, and expressing himself to the point of what some of you would consider folly, is what made me meld my heart with Danger Man's. He stood out among men like a shining beacon of light.
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