When I think of shyness. I think of not being proud of who you are. Being ashamed. Many shy people can and will deny it because it's ego defense mechanism at work.
From when I was young I was really shy, I would 'laugh' (maybe nervous laughter) at everything but I wouldn't speak much. I became confident by "acting as if" I was confident. It's grown over the years. In high school I was more confident than primary. In college I was even more confident than high school. I'd make a conscious decision to not give a damn what people thought and I'd be laid back and cool but confident.
Confidence is a sign that you're secure in yourself and others recognise it. You feel more permission to do what you want and ask for what you want.
I saw the movie adaptation and to me it seemed slightly exaggerated but I'm sure there are people out there like that and I felt sorry for the guy. So much stuttering, defending and proving himself.
I can tell a shy person why it's better to be confident but they'll only realise it by experience.
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