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Originally Posted by Angela  Actually, I think you're right on topic -- how being shy has costs. |
That's good to know, but I feel like we drown him out and he's not writing.
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If there are certain types of personalities that you can never be free with, then you're not really free at all. You're completely at the effect of other people. That's a pretty high cost, in my book. Perhaps the payoffs (like feeling safe) compensate for that, but I can't think of any payoffs that would be worth me voluntarily giving up my freedom for.
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The fact is, as soon as there is another person present, I can't be "free" anymore. The reason is because as soon as there is another person present, I become present with that person and I am no longer just with myself. That person has an emotional world and ... well, I have to pay attention to that person and listen to that person. If I don't feel up to it, I have to go away and be alone. Isn't that normal for everyone?
It's not a question of giving up my freedom, it's a question of: when I'm alone I'm free, when I'm not alone, I'm not free. I can't be with another person and not be affected or touched by their emotional world.
Angela, I have to admit something...I think this is the 3rd time now, whenever you write something to me, I start thinking about stuff, and I end up getting filled up with questions and my conclusion is that I'm confused
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It's happened again...I got lost in the middle of my response. Sorry
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