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Originally Posted by Bliss Sage  Well, I don't know. I've never been at the powerful end, but I've been falling head over heels in my life to try to get there.
It's interesting to note that the only sort of female friends I managed to get all these years were always very loud and dominating personalities. I get along very well with girls like that, and it's mutual. |
Interesting! I think it also depends on how your values are being respected within that group. If they would totally run over you and disrepect you for being more quiet than them, I think it would be different.
I'm mostly attracted (relationship wise) to folks who are not loud like "attraction whores", but more like just knowing what they want, and not afraid to open their mouth (a lot depends on what's coming out to
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But I also hang around with (mostly girls) who are quieter and shyer aswell, we fill the gap most of the times. They do the work and I do the talking, cause I'm more of the talker, don't like to do that much school/job-wise.
I was extending the shyness also into relationships, but when I see your opinion I can relate to that. But there are plenty of people who are shy in a happy relationship, most of the time also sexual wise. Actually a lot of shy and subjective persons like to be dominant sexual wise, and the dominant ones want to be subjective. Quite interesting that both parties like each other's part in a certain situation.
Not to imply that shyness also means subjective, but it often goes hand in hand.
Also I really believe being less shy is a conscious decision. Just being out there doesn't need any work, it's just the click that you say "now I'm gonna do it different!". Ofcourse you have to ask yourself, do I really want to be less shy, or do I secretly like it this way
