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Originally Posted by DayOne  I AM very kind, and sorry for sounding arrogant but like most (maybe even everyone) here, I'm intelligent too. |
DayOne, I never said you are not intelligent or not kind. I said your behaviour (blaming others and calling them idiots) is neither intelligent nor kind. That's not the same. You're confusing behaviour and being.
The way someone behaves is not what this person IS. You can behave like an idiot for two minutes without being an idiot. Or is it enough for you that these people behaved like idiots for two minutes in their life to identify them with certainty as idiots? Well then, everybody on Earth is an idiot. Or did you ever meet someone who never ever in his entire life behaved like an idiot for two minutes?
Or is it enough to behave stupidly for two minutes every day? But you saw these people only for two minutes in their entire life, how do you know how they behaved all the other days? Where do you draw the line? What is being an idiot in the first place? Could you define it precisely?
When I say "you harvest what you seed", I don't mean that your behaviour in this very moment, in the pub, or on the street, instantaneously caused these people to behave this way. I meant that your general attitude towards life and people eventually tends to attract such people and behaviours into your life. Even if in that precise moment, you did not do anything "wrong". With attitude, I don't mean only what you do, but also what you think and how you feel.
For example, you said you grew up in a horrible place and already were beaten up. Maybe you think now that the world is an insecure place, and you're scared of aggressive people? So you attract aggressive people threatening you. Or maybe you feel aggressive yourself inside, consciously or subconscioulsy? But you don't express this aggressivity, so you attract aggressive situations.
How do you attract this? Some would say it's your "vibes" that attract things into your life, some would say it's just your way of being, behaving and looking that lets people react in a particular way to you. Some would say it's just your focus: what you expect to see, you will notice much more than what does not match your beliefs. It doesn't matter. What counts is: what you focus on will expand in your life. Since you seem to have lived through a lot of crap in your life, I guess you focus on negative things, and therefore attract them.
Listen to what you're saying in this thread: "these people have no excuse. They're worthless. It's their fault." I'm sure you're a kind (and intelligent) person. But what you're thinking about people isn't kind at all. You're being very harsh! No human being (and no non-human being either) deserves it to be called "worthless"! You're mercilessly judging others (and yourself too, I bet). So tell me, why do you expect life, or other people, to treat you any wee bit better than you treat yourself, and them?
What would be very interesting for you would be to read
Ask and it is Given. That's a fantastic book
And instead of counting the idiots around you, it would make you much happier to work on truly loving yourself and discovering your own value, which is, I'm sure, immense
Good luck to you, best wishes on your way
edit: I'm sorry you're feeling stressed and depressed. Violence also pisses me off. But I think pointing our finger at others and giving them the fault is not a solution. I chose to respond with becoming more positive, loving and compassionate myself, and sending out more harmonious vibes. Well, let's say, I try to do so. I hope that my little vibes will get stronger with time and practice, meet those of others and get bigger and in the end make a significant change.
I'm sure you would really be much happier if you learned to love yourself unconditionally, no matter what your behaviour is, cause you are not your behaviour. Be kind to yourself
Others are just as kind to you as you are to yourself. Lots of Love.