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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  I would say, like attracts like and you harvest what you seed. So if you find other people stupid and unpleasant, you need to work on being more intelligent and kind yourself. Blaming others and calling them idiots is neither intelligent nor kind  |
I do wish this theory was true. But in reality I really don't think it is. Continuing with this slightly mundane example, when the guy asked if I was going to the toilet, I was 99% sure I knew what he meant, but I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, stay positive, polite and helpful....
he said "are you going to the toilet?"
[I heard what he said, heard he was angry before and had a good idea why he was talking to me]
but replied "toilet?...it's just down the stairs there mate" with a smile. (not in a sarcastic or unpleasant way in case that's how it seems when typed)
Then he was dragged out of the pub by his mate whilst threatening to beat me up.
I AM very kind, and sorry for sounding arrogant but like most (maybe even everyone) here, I'm intelligent too.
I don't think "blaming others" is a problem, when it WAS their fault. And in some cases it undeniably is.
And if I label someone an idiot then it is only because they have acted like one. I get on very well with the majority of people I meet, because I am friendly, welcoming and kind to them. Some people that I meet, despite this, are idiots. That is not my fault and me changing would not change them.