Yeah, I don't really get it either... at least not well enough to make a reply that has a good chance at being a response to what you actually wrote about. I could throw lots of ideas at you that resonate with what you wrote, but that'd take a lot of time, so I need something more targeted before I can reply.
Also, is your thread title a question posed to the users of the forum (ie. "Pavlina forum users, can you talk with me for a while about this topic?"), or a rehetoric that is supposed to make us think about whether or not "we" (ie. humans, society, etc) can talk?
Anyway, to give you a brief, possibly on-topic reply:
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I can put most people I've encountered into one of the following categories:
(1) people who want to improve greatly
(2) people who say they want to improve greatly but show no signs of it
(3) people who want to improve greatly, show signs of effort, but aren't really getting anywhere
(4) people who don't want to improve
So, what does this mean? Clearly that not everyone values self-actualisation, but some people do.
I believe it largely comes down to your context -- how you see the world will determine whether or not you believe improvement is important. That said, what gives rise to our context? What makes us select one context over another?
Obviously there are things like environmental conditioning that you can't control -- or can you? It really depends on your model of reality. Eg. Do you believe in incarnation and that we get to plan our life before we incarnate, or do you not?
In my experience, I've found that my life is a result of some sort of internal guiding force. As long as I can remember, I've had this ability to discern what is and is not right for me, and it goes far beyond preference, conditioning, etc. Perhaps the very reason I'm conditioned in the ways that I am is because I was prone -- or perhaps drawn -- to that conditioning in the first place.
So yeah, while you certainly think self actualisation is important, some people don't, and I think it's important to understand "why" that is if you are to be effective with any attempts to share your message. You’re essentially trying to advocate something without *really* knowing whether what you are advocating is even important (you may “think” it is, but you don’t really know). That said, that path will lead you into endless complexity, so my advice is this:
Right now, you don't know what the best life is to live because you don't know the nature of reality (we can conjecture, but really, we all know squat). So, instead of trying to figure that out directly, share your message with those who resonate with it, and optimise your mental model of reality as you go, but don't try to force your context upon others.
Because you don't know the true nature of reality, you don't know whether or not your context (ie. that self actualisation is important) is actually the most beneficial. Perhaps, from your limited perspective, it may seem to be, but you could be really, really wrong. So instead of worrying about all that, look to your base intentions and stay true to them, connecting with those who resonate with your particular message.
This is the path I've chosen, partly because it seems to be the most empowering, and partly because it seems like an intelligent way to live.
Hopefully this post has given you a new way to look at things and has gotten you out of “fixing” mode (assuming you were in it in the first place). I once thought “fixing” the world was intelligent, but I ultimately found that mindset limiting and mainly the result of conditioning that didn’t serve me. But take from this post what you will...