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Spiritual · 12-12-2007, 09:02 PM

I don't get you! I really don't.

You were so fortunate to receive all this clear "messages" and hints, and still you don't just listen to what they are telling you. Most of us have to go through all of this and have absolutely NO clue what the right way to deal with it is.

Look, you're not allowing her to be her, you are projecting your wants and desires on her. If she is your twin soul (which you can have more in my opinion), it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be together as lovepartners. She has free choice and you have free choice. If she decides she doesn't want to be with you, that's her right and there is nothing you can do.

And you are only looking at the current moment, the messages you received are telling you, be happy with yourself and just see what happens. But what are you doing? You are constantly telling her what you want of her and ofcourse she reacts with her stories, she wants to do what she wants, you're suffocating her!

Seriously if a guy or girl would come up to me and start telling me how much we are twin souls and such, when ealier he treated me for ****, I would also be like ok dude seriously get lost.

The fact that she still wants to have contact with you is a miracle already! Now I know this is a lot of tough love, but I think you needed to hear it, you're feeling sorry for yourself, even though are responsible for the current result by treating her bad earlier.

Now what CAN you do? Listen to the "messages" you get. Be happy with yourself. Even if she is your twin soul, who cares? If you both are a match for each other, life will rearrange itself to bring you together. Start building your own life, get people around you with whom you can have fun. Start dating other girls or just hang out with them.

The key is become independent, which you are not right now, only from that point you can attempt to have an equal relationship (if she wants to!). It's NOT attractive to lay on your back with your paws reaching for the sky and then tell her how much you adore her and how you should be together.

Go your own path and let life unfold itself. And all the stories she is telling you are the constantly used tests of girls, seeing how you respond and whether you stand your ground.

Don't be weak, get a cool and fun life and just let life unfold itself.

Good luck bro!

12-12-2007, 09:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
Spiritual Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 160	I don't get you! I really don't. You were so fortunate to receive all this clear "messages" and hints, and still you don't just listen to what they are telling you. Most of us have to go through all of this and have absolutely NO clue what the right way to deal with it is. Look, you're not allowing her to be her, you are projecting your wants and desires on her. If she is your twin soul (which you can have more in my opinion), it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be together as lovepartners. She has free choice and you have free choice. If she decides she doesn't want to be with you, that's her right and there is nothing you can do. And you are only looking at the current moment, the messages you received are telling you, be happy with yourself and just see what happens. But what are you doing? You are constantly telling her what you want of her and ofcourse she reacts with her stories, she wants to do what she wants, you're suffocating her! Seriously if a guy or girl would come up to me and start telling me how much we are twin souls and such, when ealier he treated me for ****, I would also be like ok dude seriously get lost. The fact that she still wants to have contact with you is a miracle already! Now I know this is a lot of tough love, but I think you needed to hear it, you're feeling sorry for yourself, even though are responsible for the current result by treating her bad earlier. Now what CAN you do? Listen to the "messages" you get. Be happy with yourself. Even if she is your twin soul, who cares? If you both are a match for each other, life will rearrange itself to bring you together. Start building your own life, get people around you with whom you can have fun. Start dating other girls or just hang out with them. The key is become independent, which you are not right now, only from that point you can attempt to have an equal relationship (if she wants to!). It's NOT attractive to lay on your back with your paws reaching for the sky and then tell her how much you adore her and how you should be together. Go your own path and let life unfold itself. And all the stories she is telling you are the constantly used tests of girls, seeing how you respond and whether you stand your ground. Don't be weak, get a cool and fun life and just let life unfold itself. Good luck bro!