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Originally Posted by charlottecharade  My question is, how do you view a person who puts people down, even if its in a "joking" way? (My guess is they are probably viewed as an arrogant, selfish person who only cares about himself) I really need to fix this problem. How would you go about doing this? |
I view them as unhappy with themselves. I get cynical and rude like that sometimes, and it's always when I don't feel good about myself or my life. It's just a cheap shot, a real low-brow way of talking myself up.
How to stop? Just stop. Whenever you get the impulse to fire off a nasty remark, say nothing. Remind yourself it's only to try to and swipe a little scrap of approval from other people around you. You don't need it. Tell yourself you aren't going to feed on those pathetic scraps anymore. Swear off it; vow not to indulge in nastiness.
You'll notice you feel better when you don't say anything. You'll learn that saying something negative never results in anything good for you.
Nobody is perfect, you'll still catch yourself saying that stuff once in a while (I do), but at least then it will serve as a red flag, reminding you that your mood has slipped back to cynicism.