It seems you put down others in order to be seen as "funny." You want to be liked by others. You want approval. However, talking sh*t about others is like being a whipping boy - you amuse your peers, but their laughter isn't with you. It's against you and the person you're making fun of. You've put yourself in the same category as your "target."
My suggestion - be self-deprecating. A good example of someone who does it well - Conan O'Brien. He is always making fun of himself, but always in a jolly, happy way. He isn't afraid to be goofy. Even when he is making fun of celebrities, he does it in a way that makes himself look like the "real" dummy. And...no one thinks, "Conan has no self-esteem!" Instead, people think he's incredibly witty, whip smart. People laugh with him...not at him. |