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Originally Posted by songwriter  Very easy... to know them better and becoming interested!... or not.
If I don't know the person much I never get interested. Little conversations don't mean much to me. |
Remembering a blog entry of Steve's... about subjective reality applied to relationships... says that if you change your mindset and see yourself as already connected to everyone, then you can skip the "little conversations" and intuitively connect and talk about things that do interest you without spending a lot of boring building-trust time. There must be SOME things that interest you, so when you meet people just talk about whatever is interesting and floating around in your mind at that moment- some people might think its odd but at worst most will still be amused/entertained and maybe you'll really connect with some people similar to you...
When I'm wanting new relationships I put myself in a "meeting new people" frame of mind by pursuing a new intellectual interest (so I've got interesting things to talk about and feel like an interesting person so I don't waste time on small talk), remind myself of all the great people I've met in the past by being open and taking a chance (sometimes reconnect a bit with some of them, get back into socializing... I'm quite introverted and spend a lot of time alone and silent... happily so), remind myself of the interconnectedness of all people (see Steve's blog; also I read Buddhist and New-Age stuff, which I don't totally believe, but reading it helps anyway), exercise more in general and especially before social events for the sake of the endorphins and glow and confidence, and clean my apartment and to-do list so I feel like there is space for new people. Of course this has worked a little too well recently and now I'm on here fussing about wanting to copy myself so I have time to experience two very different great guys... have no insights yet on what to do once you've actually connected with people.