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Originally Posted by charlottecharade  My question is, how do you view a person who puts people down, even if its in a "joking" way? (My guess is they are probably viewed as an arrogant, selfish person who only cares about himself) |
Quite the opposite, actually. I view such people as small-minded and filled with self-loathing.
Which is not entirely true of YOU, charlottecharade, as just by asking for input and *outing* yourself, you're taking steps to be differently.
Spiritual and mintyway gave good feedback. As far as stopping the behavior, start wearing a rubberband around your wrist. Every time an ugly, judgemental thought enters your head and tries to exit your mouth, snap yourself hard! with the rubberband. It won't take long to reinforce better policing of your thoughts.
And remember, when we're sitting in judgement of others, it's usually because of discomfort with our own perceived *faults*. Start practicing greater love and acceptance of yourself, too.