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Originally Posted by Spiritual  And you know what, everyone else wonders about you whether you're talking **** about them behind their backs aswell. After a while nobody trusts you because they are afraid they get ridiculed. |
I've personally found this to be very true too.
People generally tend to despise the ones who are talking **** about others. You give hate (even as an habit like you do), you get hated in return.
As for all habits, it's difficult to stop it because the more you do it, the more your brain gets used to doing it and you get to a point when in the company of others, you will realize those negative thoughts about people are the only ones you have in mind and feel like talking about. There's no other way than really paying attention to what you're about to say, and stopping it when it's negative. Even if you're thinking about a "trully despicable" person, just don't say it. Find another topic of conversation or try finding something nice to say about them. Train yourself to be positive in all situations. It will help you.
In a more general manner, I think people tend to feel really
uncomfortable around people who judge all the time. People like being in the company of light-hearted people. Life has its difficulties for everyone so don't bother them with negativity. I've found the socially succesful people are the ones that are fun to be around. I mean fun. Not goofy, but certainly not negative either. It's as simple as that.
Good luck! ;-)