[charlottecharade]

I'm a sociable person but recently I've noticed I don't have any "real" friends. I have people to go out with and I wander among groups but I don't really have a group where I "belong". This got me wondering if there's something about me that's turning people off. I think it's the fact that I put people down.

I know it's really bad; sometimes I find myself saying more bad things/ criticising people more than saying nice things. It gets even worse when I'm drunk. I trash other people and make racist comments and I hear a lot of people laugh, "wow, you're so mean." Then for some reason I think I'm funny and keep on doing it. For example, almost everyone in my dorm knows I don't like my roommate. She is fat and I always talk bad behind her back to my floormates. I know it's a wretched thing to do, but it's become a habit.

My question is, how do you view a person who puts people down, even if its in a "joking" way? (My guess is they are probably viewed as an arrogant, selfish person who only cares about himself) I really need to fix this problem. How would you go about doing this?