You have many options:
1) Either change your thoughts and beliefs about yourself
2) Be around supportive people
3) Stop focusing on your image, focus on other things
Having surgery isn't TRULY going to fix the underlying problem. You need to do some work towards a better self-image. I suggest positive affirmations on a daily basis while looking at yourself, I personally believe that fish oil helps change your brain to a more positive state by increasing serotonin and dopamine, I also think that you should consider the program "Neuro-Programmer 2" professional. It can help take you from a negative state of consciousness to a more positive one. If you are really set on surgery, I suggest that you work to get yourself to a state of mind where you realize that your true expression and beauty comes from within your consciousness.......THEN you can consider it....
The best thing you can do for yourself is not allow yourself to be overcome with this limiting belief. Keep focusing and doing things to change it. Stay determined, good things will follow. JUST DON'T GIVE UP and never settle for less than you know you are capable of being!
I wish you the best!
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Originally Posted by Guy665  Ok I'm going to be brutally honest with all of you out there and would appreciate some advise.
I have, what I believe to be serious issues with my self-image. More specifically I have a very poor self-image.
Despite my best efforts to improve myself and work on my self-image I still have a deeply entrenched belief that I am unattractive to the opposite sex.
Being totally honest it concerns the size of my nose. My nose is definitely what my might be called 'above-average-size'. I was teased at school about it. I am so paranoid about it that I think about it almost every day. I have this belief that it makes me repulsive to woman and that no woman could ever find me attractive. I have this feeling inside of me that I can't even look at people.
The idea of going out and approaching woman makes me feel sick because I automatically assume that no woman would want to talk to me.
The insane thing is that when I have made efforts I have managed to attract woman and a few woman have commented on how attractive they think I am. So I know that it is only in my head. But I can't seem to change the belief.
The emotional pain it is causing me is immense. I'm worried that I will never be happy within myself. Because I just can't seem to accept the way I look. Its starting to make me very deppressed. I go to the gym and workout and I have got my body in great shape but it almost seems pointless becuase my face will always remain the same. It's like I am carrying around a massive weight.
I'm 26 now but I'm worried that I will be 40 and still hating myself.
Either I can get plastic surgery (not a preffered option) or learn to love and accept myself.
In which how do I do it when sometimes I look in the mirror and feel disgusted and sick. How can I learn to accept and love myself. I can't continue living like this.
Apologies if this is a little bit intense. But it is something that is causing incredible pain.
Any comments would be appreciated. |