Go out. Go out a set number of days, no matter what, even if you don't feel like it. It's fun as hell.
Meet people in your everyday life. Go out with these four things in mind:
1. Core confidence. Not situational confidence, which depends on external things. Core confidence...you're born with it. There is no reason for it, but it's there. Think of it as a default state, the one you're born with. CORE CONFIDENCE!
2. Do not give a sh*t what anyone thinks of you. This is rule number ONE, never break it. You find yourself caring, cut that out. I used to be made fun of in school all the time, these kids would literally call me out and verbalyl f*ck wtih me, sometimes pushing me around and stuff. See, I'd always come from the "I want to impress them so I can be cool," even though I never admitted it to myself. The day it finally clicked, I walked in and everyone was giving me **** over some shirt I was wearing. Didn't care. Haha, I think they got the picture. They all started supplicating to me and trying to impress. And then after some time we became friends. Bye bye chodey self.
3. Total unreactivity. Someone blows you off, you f*ck around with it, play with it, but enver take it personally. For me, I answer with off the wall random crap. Once someone was giving me **** about how my chest hairs showing, and I'm just like "Yeah dude... uh huh...yeah...yo, hug time!" I gave him a double hug and flipped his hoodie on himself, haaha. I wasn't friends with the dude before, but we became friends after that. Mutual respect. Unreactivity to the core.
4. Give value. You're a VALUE GIVER, not a value taker. Imagine how super-duper hard it would be to talk to someone if you wanted to give them $100. Then imagine how hard it would be if you wanted to TAKE $100. See the difference? That's the difference between giving and taking value (no it's got nothing to do with money, it's just a frame of mind where you're always expectant of a positive outcome. And sometimes things mess up, for whatever reason, the reasons's unimportant. I don't even remember the blowouts and back-turns. At least not the recent ones, the ones where I had this mindset.
5. Self amusement. I'd be willing to wager this is another of the top most important number one rules. Amuse yourself, not others. Self-entertainment. This separates you from the billions of people on this planet trying to impress others and qualify themselves. It isn't a damn resume, you're just vibing and meeting new people.
Have fun with this bro. If you want the place where I read stuff like this and more go to
Real Social Dynamics Blog
The only blogs I read are Steve's and this one. Life, dating, sex, etc. So have fun with it, and go out! You will NEVER get better sitting on your ass, there is not a case in HISTORY where sitting around stressing about or being aimless with the process got ANY results! So get out, preverrably 3-4 times a week. I meet people everywhere, all the time, whenever I'm out, and you can too! There is NOTHING stopping you, and if anything is, it's all in your head.