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cylon · 12-08-2007, 02:04 AM

I'm going to tweak your analogy, mine will be a hot chick secretary, and I think I'll call her Moneypenny.

I hear you when it comes to what other people may think. I can't exclude myself from this but most people see life as an uphill struggle, and they get their identity from it. So anything that goes against that, goes against their identity (ego). They would rather have the struggle and the ego gratifaction that comes from "paying your dues". As a human I don't think you can FULLY escape that, but are most people happy? Do most people enjoy their lives? I think they are "workin' for the weekend" and any joy they may experience is in spite of all the crap they see in their lives.

And transitioning from that mindset into the mellow dude I'm becoming, I can feel my own resistance. I've had several synchronicities, they increase, but part of me says "no--this is weird--be like everyone else and TRY HARD so you can complain and gossip".

But I have to look at the evidence, and that is, the times where I've just gone with the flow, and felt good, it felt as if things were happening THROUGH me, and in the end, the tasks I was working on came out much better than when I was working against myself. It always feels good. Not what I'm used to. My ACTION plan is to learn to get out of my own way.

I believe people have serious issues with being happy.

I've tried something similar with meditating, counting from 20 to One then repeating it. It does feel good. Time changes. And like you, when I have come out of it is when the synchronicities seem to multiply, and I embrace them. When they happen and I'm stressed out, they just scare me and make me think I'm going nuts. I'm going to try the "this would be cool" thing too.

12-08-2007, 02:04 AM	#11 (permalink)
cylon Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 4,676	I'm going to tweak your analogy, mine will be a hot chick secretary, and I think I'll call her Moneypenny. I hear you when it comes to what other people may think. I can't exclude myself from this but most people see life as an uphill struggle, and they get their identity from it. So anything that goes against that, goes against their identity (ego). They would rather have the struggle and the ego gratifaction that comes from "paying your dues". As a human I don't think you can FULLY escape that, but are most people happy? Do most people enjoy their lives? I think they are "workin' for the weekend" and any joy they may experience is in spite of all the crap they see in their lives. And transitioning from that mindset into the mellow dude I'm becoming, I can feel my own resistance. I've had several synchronicities, they increase, but part of me says "no--this is weird--be like everyone else and TRY HARD so you can complain and gossip". But I have to look at the evidence, and that is, the times where I've just gone with the flow, and felt good, it felt as if things were happening THROUGH me, and in the end, the tasks I was working on came out much better than when I was working against myself. It always feels good. Not what I'm used to. My ACTION plan is to learn to get out of my own way. I believe people have serious issues with being happy. I've tried something similar with meditating, counting from 20 to One then repeating it. It does feel good. Time changes. And like you, when I have come out of it is when the synchronicities seem to multiply, and I embrace them. When they happen and I'm stressed out, they just scare me and make me think I'm going nuts. I'm going to try the "this would be cool" thing too.