Lets look at it this way. Will vs Imagination (intention). Imagination will always win. Sometimes you may force yourself to do something, but you will not change yourself much at all. My personal example, fear of public speaking. I was forced to do it because I wanted good grades, all the time I viewed in my mind how bad it was going to be. I did it 10+ times, but still I would be fearful. After doing it all those times you would think that the intensity of the fear would lessen, but it was the same. Not until I saw myself doing it in my mind without picturing something bad happening that I lessened its intensity. You can do it through will power but it's a longer path, much longer.
So picture how you want it to result in your mind and just feel how it would be and don't worry about it. After you do it a several times, the next time you do what you visualized it will have a better outcome. For strong fears, it will take lots of visualizing day-to-day to lessen the fear. I have other incidents in my life where this has been the case.
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