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Originally Posted by Sisyphus2  The advice that I should blame myself for everything... |
I'm very sorry that I used the word blame in my post. I realize now that caused you to read my words as implying that your current situation is your
fault, but that is not what I meant at all.
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I have tried to do whatever was in my power to fix this problem.
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Herein lies the rub: you don't have the power to fix this problem. You don't have the power to "fix" your husband. It is both sad and fortunate that we don't have the power to change others against their will.
The only thing that lies within your power is to make the choice whether or not to allow him to be an influence in your life. Herein lies your responsibility. Right now, you are choosing to stand by your husband in his miserable little life, at the expense of your happiness.
Stay with him or pursue your own happiness. You decide.
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None of this is an excuse, of course. Unlike his parents, I love him, and I've sacrificed so much for him.
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And yet he has given you nothing in return but misery. You deserve better. You deserve to be with someone who is as devoted to you as you are to him. You deserve happiness.
He is not giving that to you. He failed. He does not deserve you.
Jim.