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I'm curious, Sisyphus2, are there any worthwhile people in your life? You've made it very clear your husband is useless, you've implied it of your parents, then you reach out to this forum and within two days determine its participants are useless as well.

So? Are there at this moment any worthwhile people in your life?

If you cannot immediately start naming people of worth and value currently present in your life, then I encourage you to stop with the blaming long enough to consider what common denominator is present in each of your (unsatisfactory) relationships.

I can't speak for your husband or your parents but I do know the people here pretty well. In spite of your very limited view, most of us have been through our own particular 12 gates of hell. Our stories may not match yours word for word, we may have chosen to not relay the details (yet again) in response to your post. But one thing every one of us has in common is that we each have lived through, survived, and overcome (or are in the process of overcoming) our unique histories. As we've worked together through numerous issues on this forum regardless of the specifics, two themes have consistently arisen:

1. The things we don't like about people around us can serve as a mirror to help us see undesirable attributes or behaviors in ourselves. Objectively examining, accepting and owning this mirror reflection can illuminate what parts of ourselves may not be helping us to get what we truly want.

2. We cannot affect change in any person other than ourselves. We are each 100% responsible for our individual life experience.

I am not by any means implying that you have to put up with unhealthy relationships. I'm just reiterating that it is all up to you. It is your choice to remain an enabler in a co-dependent relationship. It is your choice to live with "Mom and Dad giving [you] crap all the time." It is your choice to continue to see this (and any other situation) as caused entirely by another person or to accept responsibility for creating your own life.

Good luck.