Originally Posted by cdn2wheeler
For instance, I consider myself lucky to have been born in a loving, respectful (well, usually) family, decent health and in a modern Western-style democracy. Those thing aren't anything I could control.
Oh, you have more control than you think.
For example, you can behave in a totally detestable fashion to your family members such that they no longer treat you with love and respect;
you could ruin your health by smoking heavily, eating junk food, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol; and periodically slashing your wrists with a knife;
and you could move to China.