Originally Posted by Bliss Sage
The best solution I can conceive of right now is to get rid of this fear I have and try to be like a "normal" person, be able to have sex with him and be happy and emotionally stable, even after he leaves.
Then you have to choose to be present. All your fears you've stated live in the future. Will he stay? Will I be alone? If I have sex with him (now) will he leave (future)? All that fear keeps you from feeling what's going on inside you... here... now. (and what you're avoiding, I've learned by the zany nature of our creaturehood, will have nothing to do with sex or your past, so don't go there looking for an answer.)
Sex is going to open up the element of fire in you. And fire don't have no respect for fear. Sex is powerful and it will push on your denial and your fear because fire wants to move, and it will bring up anything that gets in its way. Why do you think the fire dies out in the first 5 years of marriages? Cuz we don't want to deal with our s**t! The fire of sex brings up our issues.