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Originally Posted by FIllness and fatigue  Still, I have made the decission to stay separated from her. I am sad about this, but I dont know what else to do. Life is too short and I am not the type to see it wasted. I have lots I need to do, and being with her will only distract me from my needs, I get it. |
It's a loss, I understand that. I mean, I
really understand that.
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Originally Posted by FIllness and fatigue I feel robbed, I now have to start all over and be single again for who knows how long to get MY head screwed straight again. |
Well, you're free to feel "robbed" if you wish. Not sure if that's particularly empowering though. If you can - undoubtedly you will in the fullness of time - consider it another learning experience. You're now better placed to see an issue like this in the future without it taking two years.
Besides, maybe now's the time to enjoy singlehood. Revel in it! Nobody to answer to, no teary phone calls in the middle of the night, no watching movies that you really didn't want to see because she wanted to see it, etc. etc. Go travelling. Have fun. Get laid. Hang with friends. Work out. Take up a new hobby or sport (bungee jumping is fun). Do the things that you couldn't/wouldn't do because she didn't want to do them.
And if you get your head screwed on right, you'll be the first. Every one of us, in one way or another, has dæmons sitting on their shoulder, twisting our heads into rather uncomfortable positions. I personally think mine has done a few complete 360s.
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Originally Posted by FIllness and fatigue Should I send this link with hopes she will be able to understand how I am feeling? |
Frankly, I don't think that would be a particularly good idea. Even though this is a public forum and pretty much anyone can sign up to read the posts and whatnot, I harken back to my analogy of ripping off the bandage in one sharp go. Further discussion, especially with her in her present state of mind, may only cause more problems.
That said, be clear with her. Don't leave her hanging. It's not, well, honourable.
Capisce?