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Originally Posted by Bliss Sage 
And yet I get hurt anyway, even being protective.
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Yep. You will get hurt in life. Repeatedly. Don't convince yourself it can be avoided. There will never be nothing to be afraid of.
As for fear of abandonment, you're going to have to put yourself at risk for abandonment anyway. Even if you choose to never have sex, there are still going to be other ways in which you are emotionally invested in another person, and losing that person is going to hurt. Sex has nothing to do with that.
I doubt you took the 'marriage before sex' suggestion to heart, but in case you did, realize that marriage does not remove or reduce the possibility of abandonment in any way.
And so what if someone does abandon you? Every relationship ends, either by breakup or by death. Life and everything in it is temporary.
You have to take the plunge sometime, just make sure it is a man who respects you.