Check this out:
http://www.nickpagan.com/blog/wp-con...fectly-v10.pdf
The write up talks about how negative emotions are manageable by noticing your desires and then how much your desires mismatch reality will dictate how much you are overwhelmed by emotions.
At first it sounded, to me, like lowering your expectations of your desires will temper your feelings. I don't think that's what the author meant. If you red the article - what did you get? Or how would you summerize the ideas? Do you see it as useful to apply?
I also was reminded of the idea of our emotions being "an emotional guidance system" which is to be some sort of feedback from the universe about how out of sync with your true nature you are.
So then I wonder that there are two sources for big feelings. One is based on our brain and habitual behaviour. Like seperation anxiety for a child that had a hard time going to summer camp. That anxiety can be a big emotion that effects adult life. It is an emotion pointing at desires to be home and with family - but could get triggered by anything that wishes for more security (I think). It may currently not be needed to feel that way, so then how does one keep that habitual behaviour to desire to be home from showing up in emotions? Because to follow these types of emotions as thinking you need to solve that desire, may not actually work. You can't always find more security or good home situations or you might actually be home and safe but don't feel like you are.
The other type of big emotions could come from being well aligned to your true nature. This is what the spiritual side of you is nudging you along with. It may be a desire too that just seems to be unfolding for you. This is where the emotions are there to show you the way or to pull you along into what really works for you. I don't think one should diminish these feelings. It's ok to be in the grip of these emotions, perhaps.
Interesting stuff so dig in, if so inclined.