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Originally Posted by NotesMaeve  ^^^ Please. I want to try the goods before I commit! |
This is another reason I have waited so long. I absolutely
hate this thinking. I hate comparing myself or someone I love to a product. I hate the "test-drive the car before I buy it" and "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" analogies too. I am not a
thing or a piece of meat.
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Sex is way too important to learn on your wedding night that there's no spark or he's plain bad in bed.
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How can someone with limited or no experience in bed (meaning someone like me) judge the "bed skills" of someone else?
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And my Slamhot Boy is choosing to marry me and I put out the first night we were officially dating.
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But the point is, would he ever have given you the time of day if you had wanted to wait until you were married before having sex with him? Or if you wanted to wait a long time? I have been passed over by men on more than one occasion because I wouldn't "put out." How do you think that makes me feel? And how should I think about those men then? I think they are looking for prostitutes who don't charge them any money and they want to turn me into one of their prostitutes.
The best solution I can conceive of right now is to get rid of this fear I have and try to be like a "normal" person, be able to have sex with him and be happy and emotionally stable, even after he leaves. At least I can choose who will be my first, even if he won't stay with me...
