^^^ Please. I want to try the goods before I commit! Sex is way too important to learn on your wedding night that there's no spark or he's plain bad in bed. And my Slamhot Boy is choosing to marry me and I put out the first night we were officially dating. And no, that would not make him perfect if I stayed despite him being lousy in bed.
Of course, what do I know? I'm just with one of the sexiest, smartest, hottest, sweetest men on the planet. :-) AND he does it like a freaking adult film star AND it makes me love him more.
Bliss Sage, sex with a new person is always scary for me, too, even though I love sex. I have a small vagina/pelvis, and yep, it can be painful and I used to worry about that and get wound up. Some stuff that helps me:
Take turns just touching and being with one another. Give him a massage. Let him give you one.
TELL HIM how to touch you and ask him how he likes to be touched.
If he does something you don't like, tell him to stop. He will.
Tell him about your fears.
And sex with love is never a waste, baby girl. It's one of the most beautiful experiencces two in love folks can share.