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Originally Posted by Laranja  The golden rule: first mariage then sex. No need to have fear. Why do you want to have sex with a guy who is not commited enough to stay with you for a lifetime? Offcourse he will hurt you. That's why you have fear. Don't want to wait? Than marry him. No need to wait for Mr. Perfect, he won't come around anyway. What makes your mate "perfect" (and the sex with him) is staying together no matter what and working the relationship. There is no easy way out. |
Well, that was both upsetting and depressing to read.
Firstly, the Golden Rule is "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
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Originally Posted by Laranja Why do you want to have sex with a guy who is not commited enough to stay with you for a lifetime? |
Well...because this is 2007 and men don't want to stay with a girl for a lifetime. The usual choice in this day and age is to stay alone emotionally, physically and in every other way imaginable (which requires the elimination of virtually all interactions with men, and I have no girlfriends at all) or finding a way to conform to the norms of society. Naturally I have thought there is something wrong with me psychologically, because I can't live the lifestyle of everyone else. I have a fear.
You tell me there's no need to have fear and then you say of course he will hurt me.