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cdn2wheeler · 12-05-2007, 09:56 PM

To both The Flying Man and FIllness and fatigue: I've been in your shoes (nice ones, by the way, you have good taste in footwear) and actually had the misfortune of falling in love with someone with low self-esteem and - ach! - even married her

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Please take this in the spirit it's intended, to help you as you go through this:

Get
Out
Now.

Really. Unless you're a trained psychiatrist or psychologist, someone like that can suck the life right out of you (not in a good way). Whatever you do/don't do will never be good enough, s/he will constantly second-guess your intentions whenever you make any sort of compliment, s/he will be extraordinarily demanding, clingy and a downright paininthea$$.

I know you're thinking, "But I can't do this to her. She's different. I can help."

Yes you can, no she isn't, and no you can't.

Learn from the mistakes of others. I wasted nearly a decade of my life on someone who's exactly like this, got nothing in return, and when it ended I lost over 2/3 of my assets.

There is absolutely NO up-side to staying with someone like that. Trust me on this.

12-05-2007, 09:56 PM	#13 (permalink)
cdn2wheeler Family Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,016	To both The Flying Man and FIllness and fatigue: I've been in your shoes (nice ones, by the way, you have good taste in footwear) and actually had the misfortune of falling in love with someone with low self-esteem and - ach! - even married her . Please take this in the spirit it's intended, to help you as you go through this: Get Out Now. Really. Unless you're a trained psychiatrist or psychologist, someone like that can suck the life right out of you (not in a good way). Whatever you do/don't do will never be good enough, s/he will constantly second-guess your intentions whenever you make any sort of compliment, s/he will be extraordinarily demanding, clingy and a downright paininthea$$. I know you're thinking, "But I can't do this to her. She's different. I can help." Yes you can, no she isn't, and no you can't. Learn from the mistakes of others. I wasted nearly a decade of my life on someone who's exactly like this, got nothing in return, and when it ended I lost over 2/3 of my assets. There is absolutely NO up-side to staying with someone like that. Trust me on this.