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JimOfferman · 12-05-2007, 05:14 PM

Hi Sisyphus2,

First of all, let me welcome you to the forum!

As I was reading your post, I couldn't help but notice that you put the blame for ALL of your misery firmly on your husband's shoulders. You are not helping yourself by doing that and, what's worse, you are not even right! There is only one person to blame for your sense of misery and it's (brace yourself)...

YOU!

I know this sounds a little harsh, but it is true. Your happiness starts with you. You have to make yourself happy, not your bum husband, not your parents and certainly not us forumfolk (although we do all wish you lots and lots of happiness).

It is you who has to say to herself: "I am not taking this any longer! I refuse to be unhappy with my situation! I am not going to wallow in my misery for one more second! I am going to change my world around!"

You - and you alone - have the power to change.

Have you seen the movie "The Pursuit of Happyness"? Sure, it's just a movie and it has all been dramatized for maximum effect, but the story really happened. There really is a Chris Gardner who started out with nothing and became a millionaire. He refused to accept his situation and worked and worked and worked until he made it - big time!

I'd share my own story as another example, but it is not nearly as dramatic and also not as conviently available on DVD

Bottomline: it all start with you!

12-05-2007, 05:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
JimOfferman Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 1,823	Hi Sisyphus2, First of all, let me welcome you to the forum! As I was reading your post, I couldn't help but notice that you put the blame for ALL of your misery firmly on your husband's shoulders. You are not helping yourself by doing that and, what's worse, you are not even right! There is only one person to blame for your sense of misery and it's (brace yourself)... YOU! I know this sounds a little harsh, but it is true. Your happiness starts with you. You have to make yourself happy, not your bum husband, not your parents and certainly not us forumfolk (although we do all wish you lots and lots of happiness). It is you who has to say to herself: "I am not taking this any longer! I refuse to be unhappy with my situation! I am not going to wallow in my misery for one more second! I am going to change my world around!" You - and you alone - have the power to change. Have you seen the movie "The Pursuit of Happyness"? Sure, it's just a movie and it has all been dramatized for maximum effect, but the story really happened. There really is a Chris Gardner who started out with nothing and became a millionaire. He refused to accept his situation and worked and worked and worked until he made it - big time! I'd share my own story as another example, but it is not nearly as dramatic and also not as conviently available on DVD Bottomline: it all start with you! __________________ Jim Offerman ~ inspirational piano pop for you blog - twitter - free music - join the fan club! Last edited by JimOfferman; 12-05-2007 at 05:19 PM.