I have a question(or several dpending on how deep I feel I must get into this.
I feel my Partner has low self-esteem mainly because of the following issues.I am going to use the term "she" here alot, it is not blaming,it just honest!!
1) she does not believe me when I tell her she is beautiful, smart, sexy, or that I love her.
2)She is always trying to control me and things that i do.
3) She can never make a decision
4) She CANNOT be spontaneous
5)She needs constant re-assurnace
6) She demands alot of my time(away from my son)
7)Past issues arise over and over again
8)She pouts often
9) Says nothing when something is bothering her
10)Uses sex, drugs, and alcohol to try and feel better for herself
11)She mumbles constintly
12)She stuffs her feelings
13)she punches herself
14)She doesnt trust
15) She overreacts alot
Ok thats just some of the characteristics I have witnessed. Now more back ground. I have a high self-esteem and self worth. It has been very difficult for me to tolerate and understand why she possesses these traits. i am very frustrated and stressed out.i have headaches,had stomach cramping, feel sick often, I dont want to be around her, nor do I want to make love to her. I have asked her to go talk with someone, or we can both go, she puts me off saying she is doing just that, when I know she is just doing some reading(which is a start), but I dont feel its enough.
How can I help her, I love her and want to have a bright ,happy future with this woman. I am losing her to herself.
At this time we are living apart, I have used the "Tough Love" tactic, with hopes she will see the light and seek help. What more can I do?
