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Originally Posted by jeff3  Sorry so long, just trying to make the point that people are in our lives for a reason, if you are uncomfortable with someone who is a constant in your life a little 'discovery' may help point out why. Sometimes I feel the doubters in my life are there as a reflection of my own doubts. |
Jeff3, I totally agree with you that it's valuable to look at what we're reflecting when we find yourself bugged by someone! And that sometimes it takes a little detective work to figure out what those people are being, and showing us that we're being, too. You can't see it if you don't have it.
Sometimes they make it easy for us: "You're being defensive." "I am not!" But more often it takes some attention; when it's family, the habitual ways of being can be so deeply ingrained you need a truffle pig to find 'em. Plus, when someone bugs us, we're so adamant that the person is irritating us because they're so
different from us, that we completely overlook the real reason: that person is our mirror.
Rose, do you think that may be true in this case? That what irritates you most about how your family is being is something that you would like to address in your own self?