Maybe the negative people are still there because you still resonate with them. One of the most obvious signs of personal change is that people move into and out of your life to match you and when you do encounter oppositional people they are hardly noticed. Also, if you continue to put yourself in places with people who do not match you, you will be uncomfortable. A prime example is a support group I was a member of for several years, at first I felt right at home but as I expanded my spiritual pursuits and practices beyond what they embraced as "correct" I felt less and less a part of the group. Finally, I went to a new years eve party and all the same people I had previously felt connected to seemed so distant and different that I walked out and have never been back, I knew that it was over. The real interesting (but understandable) thing that happened after that is, these same people that I previously ran into almost daily just disappeared out of my life. There are 2 out of probably 45-50 people that I still talk to out of that group and it is because we have other similar interest + I think they are interested in severing ties with that support group too.
Sorry so long, just trying to make the point that people are in our lives for a reason, if you are uncomfortable with someone who is a constant in your life a little 'discovery' may help point out why. Sometimes I feel the doubters in my life are there as a reflection of my own doubts.
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