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Originally Posted by impaul99  Natsu, I can relate to the whole "peer pressure" from family. It's crazy, as soon as you're not 'working' they jump down your throat. I know it's just them caring for your own wellbeing, but it's rooted in fear. |
Well, to be precise, they don't pressure you when you're not "working", but when you're not getting money. Let's face the truth: if any of us won a lottery, our families would be thrilled to see us spending our free time developing our passions instead of wasting our time. We want the money, so the fear of the upcoming bills and of scarcity dissappears. Our family wants the money, too (for us, not for them). If our passion allowed us to support ourselves, they would puff up with pride and joy. They are just afraid that we become unable to support ourselves.
Their worries are not only based in fear, but also in reason, that's why it's so hard to resist them.
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Originally Posted by impaul99 |
I found it great! It's such an optimistic perspective. Sometimes, compromising is the best choice.
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Originally Posted by Wulfen You fare better in this regard since you live in your own home |
You have to remember that as long as the mortgage is "alive", I live in the bank's home. No one in my family forgets that. My mortgage is pretty unexpensive, and certainly safer than some rentals, since as long as I pay, there is no other owner who can fire me. But the fact remains that the bank owns my house until the mortgage is paid. And what a Damocles' sword is that one!
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Originally Posted by Wulfen and your husband can support you. You have a great opportunity there. |
That would be unfair. My husband would not only be supporting me, but also the mortgage. I, who have always hated to ask for favours even when I have no choice, being maintained by my husband? That would make me feel guilty, because he dislikes his job as much as I dislike mine. Why shouldn't I work to support him so he can follow his passion, instead of the other way round? Grossly unfair. That's a huge no-no.
See, even if I slightly monetized my passion, I'd still be a parasite. My husband also wants to work on his passions. Unless I actually start getting good money for my art, it would be totally wrong to leave him with all the weight of both our expenses. Only when I can say "this is getting money in" would it be fair that I left my job.
Well, it's all question of trying again, and again and again.
I liked impaul99's essay very much. It resonates with my current needs and the current aspects of my job. I will put it into practice as soon as I can.