And now for something completely different...
Experience your anger. It is what it is, but it is not you. Sit down, and just watch yourself feeling angry. Don't think about it--don't kick off the mental feedback loop that escalates it. Just watch it spin until it starts to spin down. Then ask yourself, if you can observe yourself feeling angry, how can you be subject to anger? It must be subject to you. Next time you feel it, notice it and let it pass.
Sometimes hard exercise or [fill in the blank] is enough to pull us out of the emotion, and unconsciously detaches you from it. But when that's not enough, you can use your consciousness to do it intentionally. There's probably a good reason why why Taoism gave rise to Kung Fu and Buddhism to Shaolin. When you can detach and redirect the emotion, it loses its power over you.
Good luck!
Andy
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