I’ve been asked by a few people what my signature means; that is, “What is LTPP all about?”
It grew out of a conversation I had with a fellow member of this site whose name I will keep private to protect anonymity.
We were discussing some issues I was having in attracting, and keeping, a fulfilling relationship with the opposite sex.
As the discussion progressed, it became apparent that there were four key components of what I wished to be in a relationship, based loosely on a phrase I had heard on a television program at one time.
The four components are
- Leader - that doesn't mean being the boss (true leaders are rarely "the boss") but it does mean taking responsibility for those things in a relationship that I can control;
- Teacher - by example, by my own sense of ethics and values;
- Provider - to create, generate and maintain a place of safety, comfort and security with my s/o;
- Protector - to guard against the demands of the outside world and keep "our space" free of negative external influences, to the best of my ability
Hence, the signature LTPP.
I included it on my signature as a small visual reminder to keep those components top of mind. It’s not something that I can say that I’ve achieved yet. It’s still a work in progress, but it’s coming. It's my personal mantra now and, somewhat surprisingly (at least for me) it seems to be working.
So now you know.