Suggestions: If you are afraid of rejection, go out and get rejected...
Check out the book "Feel The Fear And Do It Anyways." I know it will help you! Probably the most effective tool to deal with fear.
I think you also have some low self-esteem. Exercise, take fish oil (I take 3.6 grams daily) Nature's Made and have found it helpful to eliminate virtually all of my fears, and do some alpha neurofeedback and or brainwave entrainment (probably 10 hz alpha) w/ the program Neuro-Programmer 2. All of these things help with fear and will probably completely eliminate it if you continue them for awhile.
Whatever decision you make for overcoming this problem, I wish you the best of luck!
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Originally Posted by ABdude  I know the topic of rejection has come up a few times, but to be honest I would like a personal take on it.
As the above title suggests, I seem to have a fear, actually a phobia of rejection. This is not just rejection of the opposite sex, which is, I will admit a not-so-small problem, but rejection in general, be it from a guy, a girl, a child, a job, heck even over the internet. Whenever I do get rejected for whatever reason, the first person I seem to blame is myself. I think to myself that it is something I did or the way I acted that caused a person to reject me in whatever form. It never really occurs to me that it might be the other person, or circumstance that causes the rejection.
Ironically, I have felt rejection almost all my life. As a child I was the person everyone (including the other social rejects), picked on. I have been rejected from more than one woman, and have been rejected from hundreds of jobs I have applied for. You would think that after all this time I would become desensitized to it all but in fact the reverse is true. Every time I feel rejected for whatever reason it brings back all of the other rejections I have felt over my lifetime.
Bottom line, I seriously think that if I do not put a stop to this fear that I will go insane. Does anyone have any tips on how I can finally overcome this fear? |