[frogcat]

Thanks everyone for explaining why "just" being supportive and loving is the best approach. I think that he actually seems brighter and happier while he's been down here, and what I need to wrap my head around is that he doesn't want to be fixed, he wants to be understood. and loved. On one level, a lot of what I've learned in life has shown me that this approach towards people makes sense. And I just need to remind myself that it's his life, he says he doesn't need any "help" handling what he's got going on, i.e. meddling and interference, and so I need to respect his wishes.