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Fullcrum · 11-30-2007, 03:33 AM

Not caring what others think does not make you a dick. It removes that which stifles you.

Now you act through your OWN intentions. You are free to develop your CORE VALUES and IDENTITY without taking others' opinions into consideration. One would hope you want to develop a POSITIVE identity. So you are free to develop a powerful positive identity.

This attitude is basically being OUTCOME INDEPENDENT and non-reaction seeking.

This means that if you try to prove to others that you do not care...you still care.

When you stop juding yourself...you'll stop judging others. You judge your coworkers' performance and find it wanting. This is fine. It's non-reaction seeking, outcome independent, basically not giving a damn what they think of you. It's an observation. When you equate performance with who they are and judge them for it, this is egoic, "bad", and opens you up to similar judgment.

This attitude of not giving a damn what anyone thinks of you does not "elevate" you above others. Not egoically. You can't then turn around and say "I am better than everyone else." No, when you do this, you realize that everyone is essentially human. The ego in every person can judge, interpret, criticize, condemn, and analyze other people and their surface actions, and equate it with who they are. When you realize we come from the same place and are cut from the same cloth, you know that everyone is connected. Caring what others thinks of you is a negative filter for your actions. Once you are free of this, you are free to care about what is important to YOU! Which may be about other people, their real, true humanity, not what their ego thinks of you. Which can have a negative or positive opinion. But true love, true compassion, that's not egoic. It loves all.

This'll probably sound f****** strange, if you are not experiencing it. "Ooohh, airy-fairy incantations and theory-junkie." Nope, this ain't no theory junkie stuff, this is practical and I've applied this to my life to fantastic results.

I'm not where I truly want to be yet, but I have giant dreams. So don't think I know it all, cause I DON'T! Take this for what it means to you. Hope this helps.

11-30-2007, 03:33 AM	#5 (permalink)
Fullcrum Family Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,094	Not caring what others think does not make you a dick. It removes that which stifles you. Now you act through your OWN intentions. You are free to develop your CORE VALUES and IDENTITY without taking others' opinions into consideration. One would hope you want to develop a POSITIVE identity. So you are free to develop a powerful positive identity. This attitude is basically being OUTCOME INDEPENDENT and non-reaction seeking. This means that if you try to prove to others that you do not care...you still care. When you stop juding yourself...you'll stop judging others. You judge your coworkers' performance and find it wanting. This is fine. It's non-reaction seeking, outcome independent, basically not giving a damn what they think of you. It's an observation. When you equate performance with who they are and judge them for it, this is egoic, "bad", and opens you up to similar judgment. This attitude of not giving a damn what anyone thinks of you does not "elevate" you above others. Not egoically. You can't then turn around and say "I am better than everyone else." No, when you do this, you realize that everyone is essentially human. The ego in every person can judge, interpret, criticize, condemn, and analyze other people and their surface actions, and equate it with who they are. When you realize we come from the same place and are cut from the same cloth, you know that everyone is connected. Caring what others thinks of you is a negative filter for your actions. Once you are free of this, you are free to care about what is important to YOU! Which may be about other people, their real, true humanity, not what their ego thinks of you. Which can have a negative or positive opinion. But true love, true compassion, that's not egoic. It loves all. This'll probably sound f****** strange, if you are not experiencing it. "Ooohh, airy-fairy incantations and theory-junkie." Nope, this ain't no theory junkie stuff, this is practical and I've applied this to my life to fantastic results. I'm not where I truly want to be yet, but I have giant dreams. So don't think I know it all, cause I DON'T! Take this for what it means to you. Hope this helps.