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Originally Posted by The Protagonist  But this is the kind of anger where momentary ways to change emotion (listening to a great song, working out, eating, watching TV) don't work in the long run, because I keep returning to the same anger running through my mind. I feel the need to get revenge or some how make it right, anything to stop all these negative emotions from flowing through me. |
#1, change your attitude towards anger. It's not negative, it just
is. You've discovered that it really cranks up the energy during you workouts and channeling that energy into something is very wise, working out, breaking the dishes, go to the batting cage, etc.
#2 the anger will stop when you choose to make it stop. What are you doing to let it continue on like this? Is the anger covering other emotions (I think so) that you don't want to go to?
#3
anger is denied joy; you're pretending your joy isn't there; it's there, you're just not putting your attention on it. I know, easy for me to say. But try it.
To help, you may say something like, "I choose to experience joy now" or "I choose to see that my anger is a choice I am making in the moment and I am free to make another choice now". Don't say them over and over, just every once in a while and leave some silent space after it to feel what you feel inside.