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Originally Posted by 5of8  A major part of self improvement is having the skills to deal with the "negetive" aspects of our emotions and negetive occurances in life. Your avoidance of sadness, grief, or longing only serves to leave them unresolved within yourself. When you can experience and own your emotions they become less powerful as an influence on your life. In the end and I don't mean to be glib, sadness is sad, grief looks like grief. Don't try to make them other than what they are. |
I like this response. It makes sense that experiencing emotions instead of supressing makes the feeling resolve. In the case of this part of Tennyson's poem (thanks ZHereford), there is the idea that it's better to have loved and lost it. I am trying to use that statement to frame some loss. Since it's tempting to think maybe it would be better to not have loved when it can hurt to have a love gone. The way it hurts is with remembering when the love was there now missing. How is that hurt better than if I didn't have love to lose in the first place? Maybe once I process the past love and don't put in in the now (which is sad), it gets framed so that now is not a missing feeling? I think I'm not making sense anymore.