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Originally Posted by wolfgang  Sometimes I don't get this. Actually I don't. Having a loss brings up memories. But then to remember is also to find grief in facing the future without similar kinds of memories being possible anymore. Then that is sad and a missing and a longing. How does that turn into a good thing? How does remembering make the heart whole again? Is it possible to feel a memory for what it is without projecting the dismal future and to be happy that you loved? |
It's important not not brings the past into the future, therefore colouring it with less than desirable memories of the past. Although, I couldn't say I'm speaking from experience when concerning a love relationship with a women, which is yet to happen.
Love is said to be unconditional, so bring that into your new relationship. You loved once before, but it didn't last, it's to be accepted. If or when you love again, you accept what happened in the past and bring your attention into the present to love once again, hopefully in a unconditional manner.
Also, what did you learn during your last relationship that you can use for the better this time around? Did you regret being apart of the former relationship? Do you feel you truly lost 'something'?