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Originally Posted by Michael Chui  My mistake. 
No. In my book, loving someone is not the same as being in love with someone. The former is an action, a choice being made and a process followed through. The latter is a condition, a state of being; ironically, to me, it sounds sterile.
I'm not sure on what basis you're suggesting that "falling in love" is somehow a good thing, so I have to question the implication that it's at all better. |
I like your definition. :-)
I actually tried not to come across as saying 'being in love' is better'! haha. It's just my preference. I get a different joy from 'loving' and being 'in love', I don't expect the same from other people, that's why I'm curious about how others think or feel.
Writing this out has made me realise what I really wanted to ask was commitment. To clarify, I don't think it's 'better' to commit or otherwise, I just want to know the level of commitment people can go to in open relationships.
e.g. if I fall in love and make a commitment, I'd stick with someone through illness. But if I just love them as a person, then I would help but I doubt I'd sell my house, quit my job etc etc to look after them. Basically, I wouldn't do everything I can do.