A major part of self improvement is having the skills to deal with the "negetive" aspects of our emotions and negetive occurances in life. Your avoidance of sadness, grief, or longing only serves to leave them unresolved within yourself. When you can experience and own your emotions they become less powerful as an influence on your life. In the end and I don't mean to be glib, sadness is sad, grief looks like grief. Don't try to make them other than what they are. |