If you feel missed out, maybe you should put
some parties on your goal list?
If not, you can try the following. List all things that you think you miss by not going to parties. Then do a check - go to one party and verify the list. Are you really missing these things, or it is just your imagination.
I've always felt missed out while being at the parties - because I couldn't dance, the girls didn't pay attention and so on. It is only I've noticed, that all parties are all similar, I could turn my mind away from them.
As for your more general questions:
1. I concentrate on the outcomes of my goals - work is not fun by itself, it's the benefits.
2. If you are having fun, don't just drop it. Find some other fun for yourself. It may be less time consuming than parties, but you have to have some fun in your life.
3. Nothing interesting there, pass along. Really, what curious can happen at the party? They are all the same. If you want to socialize with certain people, do so, but not necessary at the party. Why on Earth do you feel guilty because of not going to the party?
4. See point 1. Plus, to make delayed gratification easier, I use the following thinking. Right now I can (say) go to a party. But later, when I reach my goal, I will be able to party
and I'll have the result of my goal. I just want the best of both worlds.
