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emeraldbaby · 11-28-2007, 02:49 AM

Hi all,

it seems that some people are less attached to the idea of being with one person, and therefore are open to loving many; and when they have a relationship with a like-minded person (i.e. not lying to them or using them as a spare tyre), then an open relationship can work. However I now have questions about love.

I haven't had an open relationship, but based on my personality I think it would only work if I loved my partners, but not in love with them. I had a girlfriend once that I loved and admired as a person, but I didn't fall in love with her and so wasn't very attached, and I can imagine having that kind of feeling for more than 1 person.

So my new question is, for those in or have been in open relationships, do you feel that love to be the same as being in love? do/did you love your partners as human beings that you admire and get on with, with 'falling in love' a potential likelihood, depending on how things play out?

11-28-2007, 02:49 AM	#26 (permalink)
emeraldbaby Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 37	New question about love Hi all, it seems that some people are less attached to the idea of being with one person, and therefore are open to loving many; and when they have a relationship with a like-minded person (i.e. not lying to them or using them as a spare tyre), then an open relationship can work. However I now have questions about love. I haven't had an open relationship, but based on my personality I think it would only work if I loved my partners, but not in love with them. I had a girlfriend once that I loved and admired as a person, but I didn't fall in love with her and so wasn't very attached, and I can imagine having that kind of feeling for more than 1 person. So my new question is, for those in or have been in open relationships, do you feel that love to be the same as being in love? do/did you love your partners as human beings that you admire and get on with, with 'falling in love' a potential likelihood, depending on how things play out?